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🌸 Why perfectionism feels safe (but keeps you stuck)

Sep 24, 2025

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🌀 My Perfectionism Story

✨ Perfectionism is a shield.
It feels like safety, but really, it’s fear dressed up as control.

Instead of building confidence, perfectionism keeps us stuck.

Perfectionism isn’t confidence - it’s fear disguised as control.”

🌱 What Builds Confidence Instead

Self-trust - knowing you can handle imperfection.
Alignment - saying yes only when you mean it.
Rest - because exhaustion isn’t a badge of honor.

🖊️ Reflection for You

Where in your life are you chasing “perfect” instead of choosing what feels true?

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This is the kind of shift I explore deeply with my clients: moving from survival mode into authentic leadership.

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With love,
Natalia

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